Comments on: Disclosure of extra-marital sexual activity to spouses http://sexual-sanity.com/2007/08/disclosure-of-extra-marital-sexual-activity-to-spouses/ finding intimacy and freedom from pornography and sex addiction Sat, 04 Feb 2012 19:42:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Mark http://sexual-sanity.com/2007/08/disclosure-of-extra-marital-sexual-activity-to-spouses/#comment-7550 Mark Tue, 15 Feb 2011 21:37:57 +0000 http://markbrouwer.com/?p=72#comment-7550 Thanks for your comments Eva ... and I appreciate your heart in wanting to stay with your spouse. I agree with you that an addict did not choose to be an addict, and wish that more partners would have that attitude. Nobody wants this struggle. When you say it's your duty to stay with him no matter what, I assume that has some limitations though, yes? If there is abuse, ongoing unrecovering sexual sin, hatred / violence ... I would think there is a point where a spouse says "enough." But of course, hopefully it never comes to that. Blessings! Thanks for your comments Eva … and I appreciate your heart in wanting to stay with your spouse. I agree with you that an addict did not choose to be an addict, and wish that more partners would have that attitude. Nobody wants this struggle. When you say it’s your duty to stay with him no matter what, I assume that has some limitations though, yes? If there is abuse, ongoing unrecovering sexual sin, hatred / violence … I would think there is a point where a spouse says “enough.” But of course, hopefully it never comes to that. Blessings!

]]> By: eva http://sexual-sanity.com/2007/08/disclosure-of-extra-marital-sexual-activity-to-spouses/#comment-7549 eva Tue, 15 Feb 2011 05:12:26 +0000 http://markbrouwer.com/?p=72#comment-7549 I do agree with you mark. It is most important that the partner of an addict stays beside him to give moral support and inspiration to continue on his way to recovery. though it's been quite tough to become a partner of a SA but for me it's my duty to stay with him no matter what, because i do believe that an addict did not choose to be an addict. I do agree with you mark. It is most important that the partner of an addict stays beside him to give moral support and inspiration to continue on his way to recovery. though it’s been quite tough to become a partner of a SA but for me it’s my duty to stay with him no matter what, because i do believe that an addict did not choose to be an addict.

]]> By: Mark G http://sexual-sanity.com/2007/08/disclosure-of-extra-marital-sexual-activity-to-spouses/#comment-7508 Mark G Thu, 16 Dec 2010 13:33:30 +0000 http://markbrouwer.com/?p=72#comment-7508 Mark, I click on the link to see When disclosure conversations don’t go well at markbrouwer.com and I was sent to a page stating page not found. I sure would like to see it. I want to tell you how grateful I am to God and you and Mark and Greg for the Intensive I just completed. For the first time in my life I have hope that I will be healed and transformed so that I can stay stopped. I now have a sponsor. I am doing the 90 days abstinence. Mark,

I click on the link to see When disclosure conversations don’t go well at markbrouwer.com and I was sent to a page stating page not found. I sure would like to see it.

I want to tell you how grateful I am to God and you and Mark and Greg for the Intensive I just completed. For the first time in my life I have hope that I will be healed and transformed so that I can stay stopped. I now have a sponsor. I am doing the 90 days abstinence.

]]> By: sexual-sanity.com Pornography Addiction Recovery – Four steps to Freedom http://sexual-sanity.com/2007/08/disclosure-of-extra-marital-sexual-activity-to-spouses/#comment-7179 sexual-sanity.com Pornography Addiction Recovery – Four steps to Freedom Wed, 10 Nov 2010 06:50:27 +0000 http://markbrouwer.com/?p=72#comment-7179 [...] means total honesty with spouse, family and/or anyone who is being hurt by the addiction. For more information about “disclosure” with spouses, check this article I wrote. We need to have people we are completely honest with about our addictive behaviors. Addiction [...] [...] means total honesty with spouse, family and/or anyone who is being hurt by the addiction. For more information about “disclosure” with spouses, check this article I wrote. We need to have people we are completely honest with about our addictive behaviors. Addiction [...]

]]> By: Being honest doesn’t mean saying everything you think http://sexual-sanity.com/2007/08/disclosure-of-extra-marital-sexual-activity-to-spouses/#comment-1805 Being honest doesn’t mean saying everything you think Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:59:02 +0000 http://markbrouwer.com/?p=72#comment-1805 [...] full disclosure with their spouses about their addictve behavior. I’ve written about this in previous posts on this blog. But note that even in the context of “full disclosure” of addictive behavior, most [...] [...] full disclosure with their spouses about their addictve behavior. I’ve written about this in previous posts on this blog. But note that even in the context of “full disclosure” of addictive behavior, most [...]

]]> By: When disclosure conversations don’t go well at markbrouwer.com http://sexual-sanity.com/2007/08/disclosure-of-extra-marital-sexual-activity-to-spouses/#comment-762 When disclosure conversations don’t go well at markbrouwer.com Sun, 26 Aug 2007 15:18:39 +0000 http://markbrouwer.com/?p=72#comment-762 [...] Here are some examples of what happens when disclosure of extra-marital sexual activity isn’t processed very well. If you think it’s expensive to work with therapists or coaches to do disclosure, remember that the consequences of an unsupported, angry spouse can be expensive too! For a more serious treatment of disclosure issues, check out this article. [...] [...] Here are some examples of what happens when disclosure of extra-marital sexual activity isn’t processed very well. If you think it’s expensive to work with therapists or coaches to do disclosure, remember that the consequences of an unsupported, angry spouse can be expensive too! For a more serious treatment of disclosure issues, check out this article. [...]

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