One of the most difficult concepts to convey to an addict new to recovery or even his spouse is the idea that “fantasy is a window into your own soul.”

Pastors, Biblical counselors and well meaning legalists take the Bible so literally about any glimpse of fantasy is sinful and that the sexual sinner must squash that thought from his mind.

Qualified counselors like Dr. Mark Laaser can utilize the mental images into a roadmap towards wholeness and sobriety. One of my favorite illustrations is: “I cannot contorl the birds that fly over my head, but I can prevent them from building a nest in my hair.” The right question is: “Why did the birds chose to land there in the first place?”

God bless,