I love the saying. “If you can’t do anything about it, why worry? And if you can do something about it, why worry?” This has helped me deal with many struggles in the past years of recovery.
So many of the things I worry about are things I can’t do anything to change anyway. So why not just let go of the worry, and deal with problems if – and only if – they come up? I think it was Mark Twain who said: “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”
On the other hand, if there are things I can do about a given situation, nothing will help ease the anxiety I have more effectively than taking action. It’s hard to worry when you’re taking action about something. This is not to suggest that we take action for action’s sake, or that we charge forward without thinking or planning ahead. The point is, if there are steps (or courses of action) we can take to deal with a situation that is causing us worry, stop worrying and do them!
If you can’t do anything about it, why worry? And if you can do something about it, why worry?
The following strategies can help, but of course, if you fear for your safety, get help right away:
- Accept that fear is a normal and temporary way of feeling
- Face your fears each day without resorting to addictive behavior to numb your feelings
- Remind yourself that worrying about things you can’t control is a waste of time
- Hand your fears over to God
- Use the serenity prayer to let go of stress and worry
- Keep working the steps of recovery, especially when your motivation is low
- Spend time in fun, sober activities to take your mind off your problems