“You don’t recover from an addiction by stopping using. You recover by creating a new life where it is easier to not use. If you don’t create a new life, then all the factors that brought you to your addiction will eventually catch up with you again.”
These are words I’ve taken from the website addictionsandrecovery.org. I couldn’t agree more. The game is not to simply stop doing our addictive behaviors. Abstinence just clears our head enough to help us get started. The real game is becoming different people: people who aren’t so stressed out and miserable that they need to escape, numb out, or prop themselves up with addictive behaviors.
Here is a link to some great stuff from the addictionsandrecovery.org website about becoming that different person and preventing relapse.