Personal Update: Where we go from here with and our recovery work

Moving Crew: me with son Alex and nephew Tyler

This year has been time of a major transition for our family. In June of last year, I started pastoring Jacob’s Well Church, a small church in the Chicago area. Jacob’s Well allows me to serve as pastor on a less-than-full-time basis, thus allowing me to continue doing my coaching and recovery teaching.

For the past year, I’ve been leading two weekly coaching groups that “meet” over the phone, as well as a face to face coaching group just for pastors. I also travel to Minnesota and speak at the Sex Addiction Workshop with Mark Laaser of Faithful and True Ministries once a month (most months).

With these transitions, I slowed down the writing I did on this blog ( and transitioned the “Recovery Journey” (a recovery program I established in 2010) to be more of a stand alone program.

For much of this past year, our future has been uncertain. My work at Jacob’s Well was that of a transition pastor, working to help the church decide what to do for its future. As a transition (or interim) specialist, it was quite possible that I would have relocated again sometime in 2012 to work full-time in a different church.

To make a long story short, I have agreed to continue as the pastor of Jacob’s Well church on a long term basis. In doing so, I will continue to work not-quite full time at the church, leaving some space to continue my work with Recovery Remixed.

Another milestone for us is that this year Charlene finished her Master’s in Counseling and Psychotherapy, with an emphasis on Marriage and Family Therapy. She has been doing some teaching with me, as well as counseling women and couples … and we anticipate that her counseling load will be growing this year.

It’s not clear all the ways that Recovery Remixed will transition this year, but at this point, several things are clear:

1. I will be re-engaging with the writing I do on the blog. It’s amazing to me to see that even though I’ve only been posting sporadically, we are still maintaining 10,000 visitors a month, and every day new people sign up to receive our newsletter.

2. I will be re-engaging with social media, to continue to get the message out. If you don’t already, I invite you to follow me on Twitter (use button below). I use Twitter as a way to share recovery insights and information (articles, videos, etc.). I’m not chatty. I’m not going to tell you what I ate for dinner, or how I feel about the Minnesota Vikings or the Kardashians. Just recovery, with an emphasis on emotional and spiritual health.

I’m also launching a page on Facebook for Recovery Remixed. It’s going to be a work in progress for a few weeks here, but by all means “like” it, so we can get the party started!

I promise that with Twitter and Facebook, I’m going to be focusing more on recovery in general and not be super sex-specific — we don’t want to get into any NSFW territory, or things that might freak your mother-in-law out if she saw it.

3. I will be re-engaging my email news list, establishing an “Ezine” called “Recovery Remixed Report” that will go out every week. It will be worth your time: a feature article and an update about the ministry of Recovery Remixed. This year I haven’t been doing much with this list, and I want to reengage people with more information. Let me know about anything you’d like to hear more about … any ideas for articles?

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4. The message I want to extend has clarifiedI want to focus more and more on Recovery in general, not just on sexual struggles, and especially on emotional and spiritual health as the foundation and ongoing work of long term recovery.

I am still convinced – in fact, increasingly so – that the key to ongoing recovery is nothing short of reinventing one’s life in ways that nurture emotional and spiritual health. Without that, our “recovery” efforts, are simply white knuckling it … and they won’t last.

Looking forward to the next season of our work!

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