Category Archives: Pornography

Six Signs of Sexual Insanity

Sex is a great servant, but a terrible master. Sex can bring pleasure, express love, build intimacy, and create life. But out of control, it can bring pain, express contempt, destroy intimacy, and even kill. Like any natural appetite, when fed and directed, it brings satisfaction and joy. But when starved or overindulged, it brings suffering.

Because sex is so personal and powerful, we tend to get stupid Continue reading Six Signs of Sexual Insanity

Pornography addiction recovery – what does it mean to surrender?

In recovery from pornography addiction – and any other kind of addiction – we’re reminded that we are powerless to overcome this addiction by ourselves, and that in order to recover, we need to surrender. This is hard to understand, and even harder to do.

Addicts often resist the idea of powerlessness or “turning their lives over” (surrendering) to a higher power. Even as Christians, we often give lip service to the idea of turning our lives over to God — but when push comes to shove in the areas of our lives where we really want something, we try to go our own way.

“The quality of your recovery is proportional to the quality of your surrender.” – Anonymous Recovery Saying

Surrendering to God, but not the group is self-delusion
Addiction clouds our ability to Continue reading Pornography addiction recovery – what does it mean to surrender?

Pornography Addiction Recovery – Four steps to Freedom

Pornography addiction recovery is possible, but it’s not easy or automatic. Here are four steps we need to take if we’re going to overcome the power of pornography addiction. This is not a complete list, but these are very important. By the way, these four steps also apply to other forms of sex and love addiction as well. Continue reading Pornography Addiction Recovery – Four steps to Freedom

Looking vs Lusting: A Podcast Interview with Covenant Eyes

How can we establish a commitment to sexual purity that will survive a trip to the mall? It’s one thing to create boundaries for ourselves to stay away from pornography and provocative TV and movies, but how can we live in a world populated with attractive people and not go crazy?

By getting clear about the difference between looking and lusting.

Last week I was interviewed by the good folks at Covenant Eyes (the best accountability software out there today). They have a blog and a podcast, and Luke Gilkerson interviewed me about this important topic. Continue reading Looking vs Lusting: A Podcast Interview with Covenant Eyes

The importance – and limits – of honesty in recovery from addiction

Addictions require dishonesty. We have to lie about our sexual activities, how we’ve been spending our time, consequences of our behavior, and our spiritual lives. Addiction leads to lying. By the time we’ve developed an addiction, we’ve also developed the habit of lying. After a while we get so good at lying that we end up lying to ourselves. That’s why addicts Continue reading The importance – and limits – of honesty in recovery from addiction

How addiction wrecks relationships

Addiction is like a tornado that leaves behind a path of destruction. It not only damages our lives as addicts, it also takes a tremendous toll on the people around us. Sex addiction in particular wrecks relationships (especially families). It creates sadness, anger, confusion, and a host of varied reactions from people who care about you.

Friends and family may resent us for Continue reading How addiction wrecks relationships

“90 Days to Sexual Sanity” now available as a home study program

NOTE: this program has been updated to what is now called: The Recovery Journey. The Recovery Journey is very similar to the “90 Days” program, but it includes video as well as audio, and lasts longer (for the same price as the 90 Days program!). The links will take you to the Recovery Journey page.

After years of working with people in recovery from sexual addiction, I have developed a program to help people make a new start in their recovery. Originally, this program was developed as a follow-up experience for people who go through our men’s workshops, but I have come to see that it’s also helpful for many people who want to make a new start in working on their sexual issues.

Each week you’ll get “daily guides” that contain meditations, teaching, and action steps to take each day that week. These guides average 35 pages per week (formatted to be readable on computer screen as well as printed out). The idea is to be doing some work every day towards recovery.

Along with the daily guides, each week you’ll get an hour-long audio seminar on a recovery topic. You’ll get the audio recording of the teaching session, along with the “action guide” (outline and space for notes). These audio seminars are usually recordings from teleseminars I’ve done, and include topics like:

  • “What is relapse and how to prevent it”
  • “How to find a local recovery group that fits your needs.”
  • “The spiritual questions and challenges of recovery”
  • “What spouses and parents need to know about sexual struggle”

To learn more – and/or to purchase this program … go to the new program website:

http://recoveryjourney.com

Free Teleseminar: Personal Environments – the secret to success in recovery

“Personal Environments: The secret to success in recovery”

Thursday February 18

7:00pm, central time

Many people who are trying to overcome sexual struggles unconsciously sabotage their recovery. They don’t understand the incredible power of personal environments to shape behavior. This free teleseminar will focus on the latest insights about life change from the fields of psychology and life coaching, applying those insights to the experience of recovery.

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